A Conversation with Meg Ryan: Revisiting When Harry Met Sally


During a recent event at UC Santa Barbara, actress Meg Ryan sat down with moderator Brad Silberling to discuss her career and the timeless charm of the classic romantic comedy When Harry Met Sally. Their conversation provided a unique opportunity to explore the making of the film, its enduring legacy, and the nuances that have made it a beloved favorite among audiences for over three decades.

Meg Ryan, whose portrayal of Sally Albright is both iconic and endearing, shared insights into her experience working on the film. She highlighted the collaborative environment on set and the creative freedom that director Rob Reiner allowed, which contributed to the film’s authentic and spontaneous feel. One standout moment of the conversation was when Ryan reminisced about the famous deli scene where Sally fakes an orgasm, leading to the unforgettable line, “I’ll have what she’s having.” This scene, she revealed, was largely improvised, showcasing the organic chemistry between her and co-star Billy Crystal.

Brad Silberling, known for his work on films like City of Angels and Lemony Snicket’s A Series of Unfortunate Events, explored how the film’s screenplay, written by Nora Ephron, perfectly captured the evolving dynamics of male-female friendships and relationships. Ryan’s reflections on the screenplay underscored Ephron’s sharp wit and deep understanding of human nature, which are evident in the film’s enduring popularity.

The discussion also touched upon the broader cultural impact of When Harry Met Sally. Ryan and Silberling examined how the film’s exploration of romantic relationships and its question of whether men and women can truly be just friends continue to resonate with audiences today. This timeless theme, coupled with the film’s humor and heart, ensures that it remains relevant even as dating norms and gender roles evolve.

Watch Revisiting the Classics: When Harry Met Sally.